Monday, 29 July 2013


I don’t feel like writing today. So just have eye tour on dais or pelamin that I caught my eyes most. They are so eye-candy to look at. I can only day-dreaming sitting on these daises during my big day. Stop dreaming big girl. ;D

flora et cetera

Obsess with flower guru. flora et cetera here

Just breathe by flora et cetera here

Kusha Weddings and Events here

Kusha Weddings and Events here

Grace Kelly by Qarmasutra Weddings and Events here

Reception of the Ratio Design's founders by Ratio Design here

Romantika by Rins Suzana Kuala Lumpur here

Angel's breath by flora et cetera here
Chenta Weddings here

Mini dais for Solemnization by Chenta Weddings here

Chenta Weddings here

Little Black Dress by Ratio Design here
Mega Mendung by Qarmasutra here for client (left photo). Malay traditional custom
P/s: my pelamin? secret! ;P

Sunday, 28 July 2013

Counting days - A wife's duties

Source: Mr. Google

In 89 days, I’ll be someone’s wife. I’ll be married to someone. In 89 days from today, the roles and responsibilities shall be shifted. He’ll be my protector and provider. The roles of my parents were since the day I delivered to the world. Will he nurture me and love me, an endless love, an unconditionally as parent’s love to their daughter?

I’ll be bonded to him, no longer to my parents. His permission shall the one I seek for, even just for visiting my own parents.

Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand. 
Surah An-nisa, 34.

What are the duties of husband?
Protect the wife
Provide her foods, shelter and clothing (support her financially)
Giving her love (taking care of her psychological and emotional needs too).

In return, wife should obey her husband, in matters that are not against Islam/Quran. Second, wife should guard the husband's honour and property as well as the wife's own loyalty towards him and giving him love too.

Obedient is a huge word. But that’s the wife’s first duty. That’s not really easy to be frank, for persistent person with stubborn and having her own thought. For example, if you are ask to dress properly in accordance to Shariat. I may wear hijab since kid, but I aware that I’m not covered it enough. Even wear hijab, I sometime wear ¾ sleeve shirt. Sometime, I love to wear Kebaya Nyonya, although mine wasn't that body hugging and loose, but still the shape was obvious to not be noticed. It same goes to wear too much cosmetic and accessories which meant to draw other’s attention.

Surah An-nisa verse 34, clearly stated that husband is the solely breadwinner in the family. Through my reading, even the wife is a millionaire, that doesn't give the husband right to take even a penny of the wife’s money. However, if the husband giving his consent for his wife to work, and the wife with her wholehearted willing to help the husband financially with her own wage. The only matter is that, most of time, when the wife earns more than husband, or she has her own money, the husband begins to loosen his duty. The burden suddenly rested on the wife’s shoulder. From house loan, utilities bills, paying maid or baby sitter, household and even the groceries, all on the wife to provide. First few years, yes, the wife may be able to cope with its. But as time flies, when kids became irritating by their hyper and uncontrollable behaviours, family matters became unmanageable, too much things in her hands, and your relationship with your husband became bitter, turned to more parenting oriented, one day you’ll be exploded and burst. Wife tends to lose her respect on the husband as she begins to think that ‘I’ll survive with or without him’. It’s a warning sign.

So again, it is the husband duty, to make a peace of his own family and the wife duty to obey.

Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said that the best woman is the one that pleases her husband. When he looks at her, she pleases him. When he commands her, she obeys him. When he absent himself (goes away on a journey etc.) she protects his wealth and his honour. (BAIHAQI)

Nabi Kareem Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: There are 3 persons whose salaah is not accepted nor does any good act of theirs reach the sky. Firstly, a runaway slave until he returns to his master. Secondly, a woman whose husband is displeased with her and thirdly an intoxicated person as long as he does not repent from using intoxicants. (BAIHAQI)

Just imagine how serious of displease the husband; disobey him even worst, neither the wife's salaah is not accepted nor any other good deed of hers.

Wednesday, 17 July 2013


source: Mr. Google

And ah, right back at her. For didn’t he just love his wife the, at that very second of her lovely life, didn’t he, Johnny? Didn’t he just love her, with her smile and her laugh…

She touched his arm, and maybe that was the thing, just there. For didn’t he just love her again then, for the touch, for her gentle touch? For her hand that she laid upon his arm and the ring there she wore on her lovely hand, that he’d given her years, long enough time ago now, if you added up the years, long enough ago, and he’d give her the ring again, if he could, over and over he’d like to give it, just to keep her smiling, the darling girl, just to keep her with him..

Johnny Carmichaels (Page 66-67), Featherstone by Kristy Gunn 

Friday, 12 July 2013

Dress the bride (part 1)

Hye there. I'm back. The title has enough said about this entry. Growing up as a girl reading her mum’s ‘Wanita’ and  ‘Nona’ magazines had influenced my sense of fashion. I'm not saying that I'm such a fashion liberated, but I used to dream being a fashion designer although I not so good to the needles.

What I want to emphasis here is that, I became such a particular and detail person. It has been my childhood dream of wearing the mermaid wedding dress, embracing the curve, and the mermaid tails will give justice to my out-of-proportion too narrow at the top and noticeable wider at the bottom. Even back then, I did intend to wear the maroon traditional songket attire, but I quite unsettled when thinking of what shawl’s colour suit the songket most. Songket and traditional headgear just like what Dato’ CT wore in Cindai video clip would complement the traditional Malay soul of songket. (the truth, I could not resist the modern wedding dress. Feeling princess here.. haha).

Above is the most resemble maroon Terengganu Songket attire I could found. So traditional, so classic. But you have to headgear just like Siti Nurhaliza during performing a Malay folk song, Cindai. and hire Gamelan team to instil the traditional mood..

Although all the two dresses do not so mermaid alike, the flare at the bottom part weren't too obvious, but these captured my heart the most. I more into subtle, vintage and feminine looks. I could imagine myself in these dresses and feeling pretty. Haha. White dress for wedding. What a lovely and pure of joy wedding day it would be. The best part is, you don’t need to fork out every cent of your money because these exquisite and elegance are possible to be made-to-measure by Chloe. Even if you are not so big fan of white, you can choose any colour from the colour lists. Actually my dear friend had introduced Chloe as she did wore the dress from Chloe collection. You will be surprise by how cheap the dress would cost you. A very good money (double or even triple cheaper) compared to rental at bridal boutique for few hours wearing. Here in KL and Klang Valley, the rental may cost you from RM1K onwards for the latest design. I've went to several bridal house and found this, Emma Pesona have the most latest and sophisticated dresses ever. Even her dresses haven’t featuring any local bridal-wedding magazines just yet, but they really stand out and yet affordable for budget b2b like me. The dresses are in really good quality even after several wears. I did tried one from her collection, it never been wear yet. An A ball, princess cut dress in champagne duchess satin for the shirt and and for top she used greyish Prada lace. What a such combination. It was gorgeous. For a thin bride, the dress would be the most preferable choice ever and you would be the centre of attraction that day (of cause, you are bride! All the eyes will be on you).

Although I have been quite certain with the dress look, and it took me months after months to finalize the most desirable dress ever, yet my mum hold the ultimate decision. White dress rejected. Arghhhh. My vintage all white wedding dream crushed. I almost cried. I've been dreaming so much of the first dress. I will be wearing the simple, modest yet so-me dress, at the least cost (RM600++). I almost making the impossible dream come true. Therefore, my dear friends and b2b, never ever indulge yourself into your wedding dream. It is a family wedding dream certainly. I've learned my lesson. My closest friend also a b2b by this Merdeka day agreed with me on the statement. 

Let’s continue with the other dresses which you may fall in love with.  I was so much adore Ellie Saab and Zuhair Murad both Lebonese born fashion designers. Studded with gold heart dress (from far, it seem like you are covered with butterflies.Wowww) is phenomenal. Simple yet elegance. Although not so preferable choice for your big day, the dress would be remember-able the most.

Gold studded princess cut dress by Zuhair Murad
Beautiful dress by Valentino
Heart shape at chest, mermaid skirt, high collared in pure white. Delicately irresistible vintage look by Yaki Yazid.
Another design by Yaki Yazid. A long white lace with ribbon belt to emphasize the hour glass shape. And a short kebaya inspired (i just saying) peplum waist and mermaid skirt. Simply gorgeous. ;D

Orange, mint green, greyish blue, yellow dresses also captured my heart. If only I could wear any of these dresses. I could only be dreaming.....